Children’s Rights on Parents 2

Children’s Rights on Parents 2

4. Religious Upbringing:

All the Prophets, and, lastly Prophet Muhammad (PBUH&HP) have stressed that the brief earthly stay of a human being is an introduction to the everlasting life of eternity. It, therefore, follows that a greater attention is paid to the betterment of prospects in the life to come and attainment of happiness in the Hereafter, than to the affairs and interests of this life. Thus, the Holy Prophet (PBUH&HP) has enjoined upon the parents to take care of the religious instruction of their children from the very beginning, otherwise, they will be called to account for negligence on the Day of Judgment. It is narrated by Ibn Abbas that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: Have your children utter, first of all, the Sacred Sentence of Laa-illaha-illa-Allah (i.e. let these be the first words that they speak), and emphasize upon them to utter the same Sacred Sentence at the time of their death.

Commentary: The child begins to receive the impression of what it sees or hears from the time of its birth. The saying of adhan and iqamah in the ears of a newly-born infant, also, gives a clear indication of it. This tradition shows that when a child begins to speak, it should be taught to utter the Sacred Sentence, as a first step towards its education. It further tells that when the dying moment is near, a person should, again be urged to pronounce the same Sacred Sentence. Blessed indeed is the man who when he utters the first words, on coming into this world, it is the Sacred Sentence, and the same Sacred Sentence is on his lips when he departs. The Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: No father gives a better gift to his children than good manners and good character. It is narrated by Anas that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: Show respect to your children and adorn them with good manners. Showing of respect to one’s children denotes that they should be treated not as a burden, but a blessing and trusts of Allah, and brought up with care and affection. In another tradition, the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: When your children attain the age of seven, insist upon them to offer salaat (Prayer) regularly, and when they are ten years old, punish them if they do not, and have separate beds for them (to sleep on).

Commentary:

Children generally, develop the faculty of understanding at the age of seven, and it is time that their feet were set on the path of worship of Allah. They should, therefore, be told to offer Prayer regularly when they attain that age. At ten, their powers of discretion and intelligence are fairly advanced and they begin to approach maturity. At that time, the observance of Prayer ought to be enjoined strictly upon them, and they should be taken to task, in an appropriate manner, if they fail to do so. They should further be required to sleep on separate beds and not together (which is permitted up to the age of ten). All these, in brief, are the rights of children, both boys and girls, on their parents, and the parents will have to render a full account in respect of them on the Day of Reckoning.

5. Showing Kindness to Daughters:

Even now, daughters are considered as an unwanted burden in some societies and instead of rejoicing, an atmosphere of grief and disappointments is produced in the family at their birth. This is the position, today, but in the pre-Islamic times, the daughters were positively considered a shame and disgrace among the Arabs, so much so that even the right to live was denied to them. Many a hard-hearted parent used to strangle his daughter to death, with his own hands, when she was born, or bury her alive. The Holy Quran says: “When news is brought to one of them, of the birth of a female, his face darkens and he is filled with inward grief. He hides himself with shame, from the people, because of the bad news he has had. (Asking himself): Shall he keep it in contempt or bury in the dust. Ah! What an evil choice they decide”.(1)
Abdullah Ibn-Abbas reports that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: Whoever becomes the father of a girl, he should neither hurt her nor treat her with contempt nor show preference over her to his sons in kindness and affection. Both boys and girls should be treated alike. Allah will grant him paradise in return for kind treatment towards the daughter.

It is narrated by Anas that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: The believer who bears the responsibility of two daughters and supports them till they attain puberty, he and I will be close to one another like this on the Day of Judgment. Anas adds that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) showed, by joining the fingers of his (the fingers were close to one another), in the same way will the believer be close to him on the Day of Judgment.
Abu Saeed Khudri relates that the Prophet (PBUH&HP) said: Whoever bears the responsibility of three daughters or sisters or even of two daughters or sisters, and bears it well, and looks after their training and welfare properly, and then, gets them married, Allah will reward him with Paradise.

In the above Traditions, the Prophet (PBUH&HP) has not only stated that kind treatment was the natural right or claim of the daughters, but, also that the believers who fulfilled the obligation towards them in a good and proper manner would be rewarded with Paradise in the Hereafter. He further, gives the joyful tidings that such a man will be close to him, on the Day of Judgment, as the fingers of a hand are, when joined together.

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